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Seeking approval and people pleasing is a genetically ingrained trait that all humans have. For our ancestors who lived in tribes, getting ostracized from the group was life-threatening. As a result, disapproval is a legitimate fear that many people still suffer from nowadays. If you are one of these people, who find themselves bending over backward just to please someone else, this trait can become toxic and destroy your self-esteem. Whether you are looking for approval from your coworkers, family or friends, it will often result in you giving up your own values for someone else, and your personal boundaries being overstepped. Getting over this fear is a process that takes time and effort, but it is necessary for future progress. The end result means understanding that your own approval is the only validation you will ever need. Where Does Your Fear Come From? Starting this process requires you to go back to your earliest memories and try to detect why you are...

Because we all have unsolved questions in our hearts. Intuition : the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning . Whether we consciously realize it or not, we use intuition, gut feeling, or hunch, in our daily lives. For example, when we meet a stranger, our rational mind can’t tell us what kind of a person they are. But our intuition just “knows”.  Our intuition takes in all the visual and auditory information – their intonation, subtle gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, posture and synthesizes it to make a quick judgment on that person’s character. Basically, our intuition catches on the “vibes” the stranger gives off. Hence, we should focus on developing intuition to access new opportunities and profound wisdom. Your Gut Has Its Own Brain There’s a strange yet compelling finding that shows our gut feeling is perhaps the greatest intelligence there is. According to Richard Cytowic, Professor of ne...

A reasonable life can be achieved by anyone. An OK life, an OK job… OK relationships… 
anyone can have these. If you want a great life, you must commit to leading a great life. To doing things the majority do not do. 
Commit to thinking like the minority, not like the majority. Here are 7 principles to live by, 
for an abundant, happy, successful life: Number One: The first principle to live by is that one day you will be gone. It may be in 50 years… it maybe in 50 weeks… it may be next week, or even today, I don’t know, you don’t know – nobody knows. And rather than live in fear of this, we should embrace the FACT this life is short – short and unpredictable. Knowing this we must live FULLY TODAY. It is not a recipe for recklessness, rather a recipe to give your all TODAY. to give your very BEST today. In everything you do. To give your greatest energy to this day. To your family, to everyone you encounter TODAY. It is a reminder for you to leave your best self ...

However, there is one thing that is crystal clear, and that is; emotionally mature women do not have time to deal with immature assholes. This is why most mature women are either alone or in prosperous relationships. They are mature enough to remove themselves from the clutches of teeny-bopping immature people who only seek to dumb them down with their lack of understanding about how the worlds works. Many of us are afraid to be single because being single means being lonely. The difference between those people and an emotionally mature person is that they understand that being single is better than being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect you, honour you or truly love you. It’s also virtually impossible to truly love someone without truly loving yourself first. Happiness is key to living your life to the fullest, if you are not happy in your relationship its best you work on it, or leave. It does not matter whether or not the person you’re with relie...

We’re conditioned from an early age into believing that finding the ‘one’, having a family and settling down is what life’s all about, but actually, life is about so much more than that. Society has pushed ‘this perfect life’ picture on to us for years and created a sense of fear that if we don’t achieve this the perfect life picture we will end up alone and unhappy, and its sad because many of us will grow up with this belief. To top it all there’s this looming thing called the ‘biological clock’ which drives many of us into relationships we aren’t truly happy in all for the sake of procreating. As a result we see more and more young people tying the knot out of fear that they will end up miserable and lonely and would not have left any off spring to carry their name into the future. The most important question we are all forgetting to ask is; WHAT’S THE HURRY ? Why is it so important for us humans to feel whole with another person Choosing to settle in a rela...

Whatever pain you’ve been through. Whatever pain you’re going through… know that it wasn’t sent to make you weaker… know that it was sent to make you stronger. Trust that it wasn’t sent to beat you down… but to raise you up. Trust that it wasn’t sent to break you, but to make you. Think of your life like a giant puzzle. In order to complete the puzzle. The masterpiece that is your life… every piece is just as important as the other. You have different shapes, different colours… on their own they seem random and incomplete… but together they make sense. Once all the pieces come together you can see the bigger picture… You have to be able to see the bigger picture in your life… or at least have faith your puzzle will come together in time. But your puzzle won’t come together unless you have your eyes open… If you quit and walk away… your puzzle will never come together. If you give up at the first sign of struggle you might not get to see the bigger picture of y...

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses in today’s society. Many of our family members and friends are dealing with depression and we may not even know it. Depression plagues the minds of about 350 million individuals world wide. We read about depression cases from around the world and try to sympathize with these people, however there are cases we are not told about. Another point to note is that there are different levels of depression, as in some may suffering at a different level of intensity than others. People who suffer from depression can be masters at hiding it, especially if they don’t want you to see them suffering. This is why it’s important to look out for and to note possible signs of repressed sorrow or depression. We need to help them get out of the emotional rut and help them see the light. Depression can lead one into a toxic and lonely place for those who think they are alone in suffering. Here are 4 subtle, yet serious phrases an...

“Every great achievement in human history began with a single step.” – Michael Macri | Take Massive Action Think about it, the greatest accomplishments in human history all began with just a single step in the right direction. No matter how small. What are you waiting for? Take your first step towards greatness today! “People may doubt what you say, but they will believe what you do.” ―Lewis Cass | Take Massive Action Don’t worry what people may think of you. All that does is distract you from your purpose. The only person you need to believe in you, is you! Let your actions do the talking. “Every life form seems to strive to its maximum except human beings. How tall will a tree grow? As tall as it possibly can. Human beings, on the other hand, have been given the dignity of choice. You can choose to be all, or you can choose to be less. Why not stretch up to the full measure of the challenge and see what all you can do?” – Jim Rohn If you could choose betwee...

We all know a complainer. You know, the one who always manages to find a negative in every positive. The one who seems to totally miss the upside and go straight for what could have been better or what was missing in any situation. Being around people who complain all the time is exhausting. It really drains your energy to constantly talk about what’s WRONG in life instead of focusing on what’s good or what’s going well. The funny thing is, chances are at one point or another you have been that complaining person. I know I have. It doesn’t make you bad. It doesn’t mean you are unlovable or unacceptable. Being ashamed of yourself isn’t the answer here. The point is simply, to gently tell you that you may have accidentally gotten stuck on focusing on the wrong stuff. WHOOPS. But, there’s good news! You can totally change it. And it’s important that you do. When we complain or focus on the negative in life, we actually increase feelings of sadness and melancho...

Being with someone who’s highly-sensitive can be tough. They feel all their emotions in extremes, from sadness to anger, as well as love. When you have a woman like this in your life who’s also tremendously anxious too, things can get a bit more difficult. A relationship like this will be worth it in the end if you can just get over the first few hurdles. To help you do that, here are 8 things you need to understand if you love a sensitive girl with an anxious mind. 1. She’s Easily Hurt A girl like her is extremely fragile. You’ll need to handle her with caution if you don’t want her to break. Although she knows that she can be a little oversensitive sometimes, that won’t stop her from getting hurt too easily by the things that people say or do. 2. She Can Become Attached Easily Her emotional nature makes her crave someone to love and care for. If she thinks that you’re worth her love, then she’ll give it all to you. The problem with this, however, is that she c...