Seeking approval and people pleasing is a genetically ingrained trait that all humans have. For our ancestors who lived in tribes, getting ostracized from the group was life-threatening. As a result, disapproval is a legitimate fear that many people still suffer from nowadays. If you are one of these people, who find themselves bending over backward just to please someone else, this trait can become toxic and destroy your self-esteem. Whether you are looking for approval from your coworkers, family or friends, it will often result in you giving up your own values for someone else, and your personal boundaries being overstepped. Getting over this fear is a process that takes time and effort, but it is necessary for future progress. The end result means understanding that your own approval is the only validation you will ever need. Where Does Your Fear Come From? Starting this process requires you to go back to your earliest memories and try to detect why you are...
Because we all have unsolved questions in our hearts. Intuition : the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning . Whether we consciously realize it or not, we use intuition, gut feeling, or hunch, in our daily lives. For example, when we meet a stranger, our rational mind can’t tell us what kind of a person they are. But our intuition just “knows”. Our intuition takes in all the visual and auditory information – their intonation, subtle gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, posture and synthesizes it to make a quick judgment on that person’s character. Basically, our intuition catches on the “vibes” the stranger gives off. Hence, we should focus on developing intuition to access new opportunities and profound wisdom. Your Gut Has Its Own Brain There’s a strange yet compelling finding that shows our gut feeling is perhaps the greatest intelligence there is. According to Richard Cytowic, Professor of ne...